Is there such a thing as a soul mate? Or is the term “soul mate” an overused clich? Books, TV and movies seem to show nothing but romanticized relationships and promote the idea that there is one perfect partner out there for each of us.
If that were true, you’d have a one in 6 billion chance of finding that one specific person you were destined to be with. Isn’t it possible that a man can have a number of soul mates in his lifetime? After all, Ms. Right Now is much easier to find than the classic ideal of Ms. Right.
Here are some things to think about on both sides of the debate.
what is a soul mate?
Most of us will define soul mate as a life partner we’re in love with; someone with whom we’re connected spiritually and sexually. This is a romantic view of a soul mate and might better be spelled as “sole mate.”
The dictionary definition of soul mate is “One of two persons compatible with each other in disposition, point of view, or sensitivity” and “someone for whom you have a deep affinity.” (Source: Dictionary.com) This broader definition opens up the possibility of applying the soul mate principle to a variety of people in your life.
There are lots of people you share common interests with. You like the same music and hobbies, you hold similar jobs, you have the same sense of humor. A soul mate has all these attributes but represents a deeper, more spiritual connection.
According to Greek mythology, our ancestors originally had two heads and four arms until they angered the gods and were split in two, condemning humans to a lifelong search for their soul mates. Maybe that’s why so many of us are looking for someone to make us feel complete.
thousands of soul mates?
If we separate the concept of a soul mate from the romantic ideal, we broaden the field. There could actually be thousands of soul mates out there for you. That girl you’ve known since childhood, whom you’ve always described as your sister; the colleague who answers questions almost before you ask them; your best buddy, the one you trust, the one with whom you can talk about anything in complete confidence; these could all be considered soul mates.
Our need for connections is different in various stages of our lives. Just as your interests as a teenager were different than now, so are your spiritual and emotional needs. You probably know at least one older man who remarried after his wife died and who seems to have found a second soul mate. They are committed and comfortable. They seem to have a metaphysical connection. They seem to complete each other.
Reflect on your past. Certain people made an enormous impact and made you feel complete. Perhaps it was a teacher who saw potential and encouraged you. Maybe it was a friend or grandparent with whom you shared secrets about the meaning of life. Maybe it was an old girlfriend, with whom you grew apart as your goals changed. Soul mates make a dramatic impact on your life, your outlook and your inner spirit, even if your time together is brief.